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[quote=Anonymous]I don't have any major issues with my family, but I love my in-laws so much more.  It's funny, because if you asked my family, I'm sure they'd say I "married down," but I'm so much more comfortable and relaxed around my husband's family.  For example, my sister invited us to come celebrate yesterday at her new house, but we had already agreed to spend it at my in-laws' house.  They grilled a ton of food under an umbrella and then we all sat around and ate, crammed into their living room.  Nothing special, but plenty of laughter and good conversations.  I know at my sister's, she was so mad that her party was "ruined" by the rain and nobody could use the pool or fancy new grill set-up they have.  They just have no ability to make lemonade from lemons.

There are so many other examples of how my DH's family is just more accepting and content with what they have.  When we were expecting our first child, I told my mom and was lectured about not being ready (we were renting) and how we should wait to have children.  DH's parents cried tears of joy, and to this day, they're always anxious to babysit (kids are 6, 4, and 2).  If I ask my mom, she'll say she has to look at her schedule (she's retired) and then if she agrees at all, she'll suggest just 1 or 2 kids, but not all 3.  That's fine, but it's a complete difference from the other set of grandparents.  Oh, and all the families live within an hour of each other.

OP, can the guilt.  You don't have to apologize for your relationship with your in-laws.  I would maintain some kind of relationship with your family, just because it's so easy to stay in touch without actually seeing/talking with each other (Facebook, email, etc).  I also have almost no relationship with my father, but I send him cards from the kids on his birthday, Father's Day, and Christmas.  That's the level of contact I'm comfortable with.[/quote]

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