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[quote=Anonymous]Yes, my MIL. Just a few scenarios among many:

When we lived 45 min away, and we were driving to visit, she wanted to know where we were at all times. Specifics. Of course, if we said we'd be there at two, we'd be there. Or sometimes we would shoot a text to give an eta. ETA was not enough. Needed to know where we were on the journey.

When we were deciding to move and to get a new job for DH, and the 100 decisions that go along with that, she wanted to know stuff WAY too early that was of no relevance to her. And not just asking to be kind, like a friend might ask, how's it going? It was like "why haven't you decided this yet?!?!" And ya know we were in the process. Of deciding everything! And I have no idea how some of these things would even impact her weeks in advance!!

When the family is all taking a trip together, she is the center of it all. Obviously having a hard time adjusting to her adult children managing aspects of the trip themselves. For her it would not be enough for her to arrive at the destination in the morning, and know everyone would be there by mid afternoon. I get that it's fun to know when planes land or whatever. It's not just that. "Where are you getting a car rental? How long will that take? Ok so that puts you at the house at 1 right, maybe 1:30 if you stop for lunch? Should I have lunch ready for you guys?" And every detail of the week is handled like this.

Last, all of this does not *feel* caring. It feels, as I said before, not like a friend simply being interested and friendly...[/quote]

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