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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm newly divorced, and have been out of the game for so long I don't know where to start. So where do you meet men? I am not really into the online scene, but also don't want a bar hookup ....[/quote]

If you have "been out of the game for so long" than you need to start by recognizing that your reasons for being "not really into the online scene" are way outdated. A decade ago, the online "scene" used to be kind of niche, so unless you were part of a community that early-adopted online dating, like gay people or Jewish people, it was saying something about your personality that you were willing to try online dating. Now the opposite is true; so many people online date that it is more likely to signal something unusual about you if you won't try it than if you will.

There are a lot of downsides to online dating, but at the end of the day, its a much more efficient and sensible way to meet people. If you go to a bar to meet someone, you are limited to the world of people who walk into that bar and you know nothing about them when you start the conversation other than that they ended up in that bar. When you use online dating, you are looking at a larger pool of people and starting by communicating with people you have something in common with. You're exponentially more likely to meet someone who's a good match. If anything, its vaguely amazing to me that everyone managed to find someone before online dating.

But if you really can't get over it, start going to groups, clubs, or meet-ups involving something you're interested in. Then at least you'll have one meaningful similarity to whomever you meet there.[/quote]

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