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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oh god, I wouldn't want my parents or MIL around that much in the hospital with baby in NICU. My dad would be annoying. My mom would be somewhat helpful because she's also a doctor, so it would in theory be nice to have her input -- wouldn't have to go anywhere for a top-notch second opinion. But she probably wouldn't come.

I don't understand the "must visit in the hospital!" thing. I didn't want hospital visitors. I was struggling with breastfeeding and pumping, I was vulnerable and physically exposed, I was recovering from a C/S...I didn't want people around. My MIL was there from morning to night all days we were in the hospital and I just wanted her to go home (she also invited her SIL without telling us...wtf). I have one friend in particular who thinks it's her duty as a good friend to visit in the hospital...I managed to hold her off but she was waiting at our house when we got home. With food. That was fine. ;)

Now, if you're talking about older babies -- I can sympathize. My mom, for all her medical help and expertise, doesn't seem to have much interest in actually seeing DD (now 18 months), although she does seem to welcome my medical questions and likes to send gifts occasionally. I think she has only seen DD 2-3 times, and they just moved cross county so it will be even less often now. My dad has come on his own several times and very much wants a relationship with DD. He was devastated to move so far away but my mom insisted. The only downside is, DH can't stand him and he isn't the greatest house guest, although he tries.[/quote]

Ha - that's a great perspective to have. I guess I hadn't factored in that my sib's spouse might prefer it this way![/quote]

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