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[quote=Anonymous]Op here.

Thank for your kind responses. In answer to your questions, she does see an off-campus counselor and psychiatrist (who are in the same practice). She attends those appointments without fail. (She takes an Uber and we pay it and the receipts come to us, so we are able to confirm this without asking her each time). After the first incident, I left a message for the counselor saying the incident had occurred and police were called. My DD said a couple weeks later that she had talked to her counselor about it. She didn't say what they discussed.

So that is in place, as well as the Dean's office. And she has really good family support. But it seems like it's not going to make a difference soon enough or quickly enough to help her extract herself from this relationship before the next incident. The hotline woman said not to speak poorly of her boyfriend to her (it adds shame to a situation where she is already so ashamed, and her boyfriend piles on the shame too). The hotline said the most important thing is to have her be able to tell us when this violence happens. I fear if I confront him, she will know about it and stop letting us know what is happening. I am almost 100% certain she has not told her friends anything. She is very, very close to her siblings (daily texting and FB messaging) and only told one of them about the police incident. I think she is deeply ashamed and scared.

We saw her last weekend before the latest incident and there was no light in her eyes. He was there too. It is so awful. She has come so far in her healing from her early trauma, and now this is retraumatizing her. She texted last night that she was going to lie down (in her dorm room) because she felt a panic attack coming on. (Her medications were at his apartment.) That's what prompted me to post this in the night.

I am thinking about calling her doctor's office and talking with the nurse and explaining how the injury actually happened. And then at least there will be some documentation of the injury when she goes to the appointment. I am also keeping track of this at home.

One of the posters said my DD could be feeling that she is not perfect and he is not perfect and they both need to work through things. She has said these exact words. 
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