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[quote=BobRoss][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I stopped being so focused on everything that I felt I wasn't getting, or that I felt my partner was doing wrong/wasn't doing.  It wasn't that I didn't have valid complaints in some respects as I did.  But it had just turned into a focus on the other person when I needed to focus on me and building a team.  I decided to make sure I did my best to improve the relationship and it was amazing once I kind of stopped being so outward-focused and made some changes, my partner got into the game too and made changes.

I also revised my expectstions.   I didn't even realize how I had a rose-colored view of marriage.  It didn't seem unrealistic at the time, but it was.  I needed to be more accepting that a marriage isn't easy all of the time.  I needed to see it as a marathon vs a sprint.  I needed to hear from some of my friends to recognize that everyone struggles and no one is perfect, and what I 'wanted' may not really exist outside of movies or the rare rare couple that does seem to always be completey in synch.  I had to accept that life was messy.  Love is messy.  [/quote]

Thanks for this and very good food for thought.[/quote]

Ditto. I could have used this post a year or ten ago! [/quote]

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