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[quote=Anonymous]My parents also divorced right around the 25 year mark. I was out of college and living in NYC, my brother was living at my parent's house with his new baby and girlfriend (neither of whom had jobs), and my sister had just left for college.

Mom waited until my sister was off to college before filing the papers. The stress of my 22 year old brother knocking up his GF and moving into my family's home is what really sent my parent's marriage over the edge. I was already out of the home at that point for 8 years, so I really missed a lot of the stress and fights. My then-teenage sister was practically raising the baby since my brother and his mentally ill GF were so irresponsible.

My parents get along decently well nowadays (about 8 years since the divorce). They are cordial and communicative. Dad remarried within 4 years of divorce to an immigrant Filipino nurse - she's conservative and takes care of him & the household. He loves it.

My mom has been dating an awesome guy for the last year and they are moving in together sometime this year (actively looking at rentals). Neither of them have any desire to get remarried - they have their own money, own grandkids, own properties, etc. They just enjoy each others' company and are very independent. It took my mom a few years to even think about getting back into the dating pool.

My sister has no relationship with Dad and has cut him out of her life completely. She took Mom's side in the divorce (my father is emotionally stunted, has difficulty expressing his feelings, and has issues with empathy/saying things the wrong way in a manner that offend people). He means well, but he's clueless.

The holidays the first 5 years were hard. I still have to split a lot of time between two households when I go home to visit. That's really the hardest part. My Dad and I have also drifted apart in recent years, though we never had a particularly close relationship (I bore the brunt of his alcoholism when I was a young kid - he quit when I was about 8).
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