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[quote=Anonymous]My parents split after 25 years of marriage.  My sister and I were teenagers, my brother in college.  There were some bumpy, awkward years as everyone adjusted.

It's now been 20 years and everyone is in a really good place.  My parents are both remarried.  They have a good relationship and are friendly, as are their partners.  We all spend holidays and birthdays and major life events for us kids or the grandkids, all together.  We spend a week all in one huge house with both my mom and her DH and my dad and his DW.  It's awesome.  I love that they worked hard at getting over the awkward stage so that we can be a functional family unit.  I love my step-parents for being big enough to work through the weirdness.  I love that they put US first and figured out a way to not make holidays and the like annoying.

I will say, the big family events all together weren't really needed before the weddings and grandkids came.  So there was maybe 10 years before that for everyone to adjust a bit.  But once my siblings and I were all married, we had in-laws who we needed to split time with, so doing separate holidays and the like was just impossible.  So it became clear the choice was "do things together, or see our kids/grandkids LESS" and they choose "do things together".

My divorced parents are happier and more functional than my DH's still-married-after-40-years parents.[/quote]

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