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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So I'm ashamed I even noticed or cared, but I have a preschool aged child who had a birthday yesterday, and we invited mostly just family from both sides to his party. On my side, I have three adult siblings who came with their spouses and kids, and not one of them brought him a gift. (One did bring a card that her little girl had made, which was sweet at least.) I just thought this was really bizarre, and am embarrassed to admit that I felt a little hurt by it. I don't know why I care, because he certainly doesn't need more "stuff" and he didn't even notice - it just felt like it was sending a really weird message, like "meh, we don't really care about you that much, kiddo". Also, just from an etiquette perspective, I can't imagine being invited to any kid's party and attending without bringing at least a small gift. It just seems a little rude? I mean at that age, you could give a $2 bottle of bubbles and they'd be excited. I just don't get it ... and would love for someone to say "oh yeah, this is normal in my family, we all love each other but don't give the kids gifts." [/quote]

PP again has something recently happened between you  and your siblings?

Did you send out a wishlist  for DC at Christmas or complain about certain types of toys or gifts?

Did you forget to give your nieces or nephews a gift?[/quote]

No, nothing recently with the siblings. With one of them, our relationship has not been nearly as close the last few years as it used to be, but no conflict and everything is fine.

We've never been the "wishlist" type. Nobody has ever asked for gift ideas, and I haven't given any. Have never been anything other than grateful for gifts received.

No, we always give gifts. I guess that's what makes it hard for me to "get", I really love giving my nieces and nephews gifts and celebrating their special occasions with them. For me it's a way to show them I love them, for them to feel special (even though I know it's just stuff, and of course we show it other ways as well) but I would feel so bad if I didn't give them a gift on their birthday or Christmas. I will say I noticed at a recent party of one of my nephews, two of the siblings didn't give him a gift either, and I thought it was odd and assumed they must have already done it (his birthday was several days before his party). Maybe they've just decided it's just not something they do anymore. [/quote]

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