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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]np: I am interested in the responder who said "maybe you can use some reverse guilt - Mom, why don't you visit us?"  I recently posted "Can I keep this in my back pocket" on this board, and I was flamed for thinking I might use reverse guilt on my mom.[/quote]

I'm that PP.  I think reverse guilt is never a first option, but I also think the two situations are totally different.

Mom is trying to guilt daughter into visiting her.  Daughter responds, I'm disappointed, too, that you won't visit us.

I don't remember your situations as well, but someone told you something about your mom in the past (she favored one of your brothers or something)?  Mom giving you a hard time, you respond with well, you told so and so that you never loved me anyway.

In my mind, totally different. In my (tongue in cheek, along with many other things) suggestion, daughter is responding in kind.  in yours, you're not keeping something go your back pocket, you're whipping out a nuclear option not related to current issue.  First case - mom could visit daughter instead, and both parties are (at least somewhat) satisfied.  Win win.  Second case, there is no response to information you are sharing with only intent to hurt.  Lose-lose.  [/quote]

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