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[quote=Anonymous]Am I justified?  Because he's frankly a horrible person and an awful father and grandfather.  He goes dark for 6 months or so, and then claims it's my fault.  He actually was demanding that we entertain him last year after I had two surgeries in three months, which was a non-starter because his visits consist of him sitting on the couch and expecting to be waited on.  I was so tired of it -- and even more so, the impact it's had on my child -- that I just went full no contact with him after that last straw.

So he sent me an email accusing me of being "mentally ill" and "in a bad place" and needing help; it contained a healthy dose of revisionist history and enraged me, but I resisted reactively replying.  Prior to this, I reached out to him multiple times after the dust settled and he ignored me, but he decided to finally get in touch (and then he wants to see my six year old and doesn't understand why she has no clue who he is and is afraid of him), and was abusive about it.  This is a pattern that goes back to my childhood (he and my mother eventually divorced), when he was emotionally and physically abusive and I'm too old for this shit at 40. Our relationship has been fraught for years, but it has seemed to get worse over time, just because he is increasingly irrational.  And now I feel really strongly that my daughter shouldn't be exposed to this kind of dysfunction.

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