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[quote=Anonymous]My brother and I were abused by  the man  our  stepfather, starting shortly after our sister was born so from when I was 14 and he was 13 until we both left home.  Neither of us have told our mother what went on. I have issues with  our mother for other reasons, but we both believe she didn't know of the abuse.
Recently our stepfather was very ill close to death, both my brother and I participated in his care though admittedly we didn't do as much as  we could have. Health wise he is doing better, no longer hospitilized, but her probably won't live long.

My mother has  had words with both my brother and I over  our "behavior" during  the initial health crisis. How she was disappointed we didn't do more for the man who raised us. My brother wants to  tell  our mother the truth about him.

I'm hesitant to do so.  I know it will break our mother's heart. She wasn't a perfect mother, but she didn't have the easiest of lives, and he brought her some happiness. The other reason is our sister  she adores her father and this would crush her. She's in her first year of college and doing very well, and I don't want to derail that.
He's pretty much confined to a chair or bed all day, totally dependent on the help of others and will likely be dead in a couple years. I don't want to cause a family rift when  he has't got long .

There are no kids in the family at the moment,  both of our spouses are aware.

I'm okay with  where I am in my life and don't want to dredge up the past. I don't want to force my brother to remain quiet either.[/quote]

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