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[quote=Anonymous]It seems like my parents never accepted the fact that I do not take them and their wishes into consideration first when my husband and I make decisions. Two of my siblings (both in their late 20s and not married) even do this, assuming that all holidays will of course involve them because they want to see our kids. Even DH has noticed that when we plan for vacations, my parents seem to think we're automatically going to visit them. My parents never say things like, "let us know what you and DH decide" or "your spent xmas with us last year, so we don't expect it to be with us this year." They just assume I'm going to do their bidding and force their wants on my husband, as if he and his family are insignificant.

FWIW, I think this has always been the culture of my family- my grandmothers pretty much ruled the roost and were the final say on everything. Their husbands would never dare say no to what their wives wanted. It was do what she wanted or else. I guess my mother in particular thinks that dynamic has continued. Anyway, lately, my mother has been turning up the heat in regards to this behavior. I've had to be frank with them but she just doesn't seem to get it.

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