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[quote=Anonymous]We have always had a tenuous relationship with ILs because FIL never approved of me and has actively tried to break apart our relationship.  FIL has always been emotionally abusive towards both my DH and MIL.  For many years, we avoided interacting with ILs and they were fine with that except two years ago, when we had our DS (their only grandchild since DH is an only child).  ILs said they really want to re-establish their relationship with us and want to be in DS's life.  They promised that they would behave in front of DS.  This lasted well for 1.5 years.  Then out of the blue, IL offered up a large sum of money stating that they want us to have our inheritance early just like how DH's grandma did so for them.  We were very thankful and we accepted the money.  They insisted that we invest the money, which we did.  However, since accepting the money, they have completely changed their attitudes.  FIL became emotionally abusive again, constantly criticizing us.  At one point he even said that he would prefer we leave our house so that he does not have to see us but still get to interact with our DS.  MIL agreed with FIL (because she is so used to placating him).  When we fought back and tried to reduce interactions (i.e. not every Sunday at 8 AM), they got really angry.  Now they have asked for all their money back.  Well, since the market has gone down, we have lost a bit of it.  We offered to give what we have left back, and they got angry that we lost money in the market and we can't give it all back.  We told them that we followed their direction and invested it as they asked.  What should we do now?  Give them back what we have and return the other money later when we save up enough?  Just give what we have back now and not worry about the amount we have lost?  Or should we take out a loan to give them all the money back?  In addition, should we continue to interact with them in the future or just break off contact?  DH is leaning towards giving what we have left back and forget about the rest.  He also wants to not interact with them in the future.  However, I don't know if he is going to regret it in the future.  He is really upset and sad about this situation.[/quote]

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