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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Give him time.  And start when you are alone together.  Not in public.  This would be like expecting you to speak Chinese in public in front of native speakers.  Possibly very embarrassing for you and you would need a lot of encouragement.  Spoken English is not the same as signed English.  Different grammar, different rules.  [/quote]

Deaf pp here. No, this isn't it. I mean, you're correct about syntax, etc. But someone who's been mocked for "deaf voice" and is reluctant to use it should not be "encouraged" to do so. This is an intense matter of personal preference -- it's not something to be "fixed" or coaxed out of like some Hallmark movie. Just respect it and figure out how to communicate effectively. Most likely that means she learns to sign.

This is not at all like being asked to speak Chinese in front of native speakers. Someone learning Chinese eventually WANTS to be able to interact and converse in that language. This man most likely has no interest in it whatsoever.[/quote]

NP.  I'm sorry, but why is "he gets to keep his preferences and she has to learn sign" OK in this situation?  Shouldn't BOTH parties be trying their best to communicate with one another, including him working on his aversion to verbal communication while she works to learn ASL?  [/quote]

It's a deaf culture issue.  OP, you should start reading up on deaf culture if you think this may be serious.  People can really step in it otherwise.[/quote]

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