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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][url]http://www.metafilter.com/151267/Wheres-My-Cut-On-Unpaid-Emotional-Labor[/url]

I"m going to bet that 100% of woman can relate to this.

And that a mans reactions will be split three ways:

[list]1) That's bullshit, just a bunch of women whining (defensive)
2) I don't understand (no interest in spending any time or energy in hearing from women about women)
3) Wow. Huh. I never realized... I never thought of it that way before...  (OMG, HE'S A KEEPER!)[/list]

If you'd like a "greatest hits" from that very long discussion thread someone picked out the top responses and "condensed" the 2,000+ comments into a 70 page annotated Google doc pdf.

[url]https://drive.google.com/a/paeaonline.org/file/d/0B0UUYL6kaNeBTDBRbkJkeUtabEk/view?pref=2&pli=1[/url]

Men - I dare you to read the entire thing. To take the time and effort to read it - and not sneer or dismiss, but read it. Pretend that somewhere in those comments your wife made a posting - try to guess which one is hers.

I sent it to my husband asking him to please read it (out of desperation, as 9 months of bringing these things up in therapy have gotten me nowhere) - that I knew it was long but that I thought it had a lot of good points ... and he didn't. Said it was too long. That he didn't understand it. And it just appeared to be woman complaining about things that women just do better anyway.

It felt like a little part of me died when he said that.

(side not - unrelated - wow, the commenters at MetaFilter are sure a lot more supportive that DCUM - [b]either they moderate all the trolls and hateful comments out or people who are responding are doing so because they want to say something constructive and adds to the conversation, not wasting their own time and the readers by making comments that shoot down the previous poster for daring not support their marriage vows.[/b] Quite refreshing.)

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Are you the socially awkward, not very successful with women fellow from last night who was looking for tips on how to pick up a woman you work with because you had tired of high priced escorts?[/quote]

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