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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thanks everyone. Your answers make me feel so much better. I was feeling like a horrible person for even considering drifting away.

I should clarify that my mom wasn't abusive or anything like that. Just made a lot of irresponsible decisions, didn't model healthy relationships, etc. [/quote]

You're not at all a horrible person for considering this.  Before cutting her off, I would do some research into all the ways she could make it on her own.  Is she eligible for any social service type of programs like food stamps, rental assistance or anything like that?  Social security disability?  If so, once you have all of that information, bundle up it all up - the applications, brochures, and contact information - give it to her and let her know that you're not able (or choose not) to continue to provide assistance to her (after your next monthly payment).

Is she able to work but refuses, or is she underemployed?  Is her home/apartment too expensive for her?  Does she make poor spending decisions?  I would handle that the same way, but maybe refer her to some free consumer counseling center.

If she's not eligible for any type of aid, then review all of her finances before giving her another cent and make up a budget that allows her to live on what she has.  My SIL did this for her dad and then told the siblings he's got enough to live on, so basically, he may whine and complain all the time, but he's fine.

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