Reply to Don't know how to deal with depressed mother

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Don't know how to deal with depressed mother"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]OP. ignore PP.

You are human.

This person choses to be in a situation where things could be better, and sees the glass as half empty, no matter what.
It also feels like the task of making her happy has been cast for you.

I really agree with the person who said some therapy for you would be time/$ well-spent. 
I did this. My mom (who moved 1000 miles away so she could argue with the same snow birds in another setting) often does the "if only you would...." and "everyone else has their grandkids visiting all the time, and here I am with nothing to look forward to..." as if I am supposed to be the organ grinder's monkey. When I DO try to make plans, I hear that she's been invited here or there (and then I hear how bad it was).

You can't spackle the hole in her heart.

You CAN have some kind of relationship and you should try, but try with some guidance from someone who both understands depression/isolation and is rooting for YOU to be in a healthy emotional state.

Good luck and I am sorry you are frustrated. It sucks to have someone blame you for their "stuff," and it is hard not to take the bait. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics