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[quote=Anonymous]Divorcee here. This was a battle my ex and I had. Our marriage counselor suggested, as a PP did, that it was not about the chores but about deeper issues in the relationship. I thought she was wrong at the time but now with some distance and hindsight I think she was right. Sometimes this fight probably really is about the cleaning and getting things done. In that situation a cleaning service would help immensely. However, in our case, and probably many others, the underlying issue was that my ex was checked out of the relationship and not contributing in many ways. I felt lonely and unsupported. The fact that he would say he would do x and then not do it was just a manifestation of the bigger issue, the lack of support and loneliness. Getting a cleaning service (which we actually did) does not help with that. [/quote]
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