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[quote=Anonymous]This sounds really stressful, but you can do this. Once you get to the other side of these problems, you'll realize you can do ANYTHING moving forward.

1) Wife goes to doctor and gets on meds, gets a job and starts contributing to the family in a meaningful way within a month. If she doesn't want to do that, then she needs to leave since she's not a part of the family.

2) Think about how you interact with your child and put yourself in his shoes. How would you want you to treat you if you were 10? Treat him the way 10 yr old you would want to be treated. Compassion and kindness goes a long way. The people who deserve it least usually need it most.

3) Get your son to a dr to see if there's anything they can do to help. Or ask teachers at school if seeing a dr isn't affordable.

4) If your house is going into foreclosure and there's nothing you can do about it, stop making payments and save every dime you can for moving. Don't give your wife access to that money. Save it for moving and start looking for a place now because it's going to be more challenging with a foreclosure on your record.

5) do whatever you can to earn money. Sell plasma. Do online transcription work. Anything. Don't piss that money away, SAVE every dime.

6) Try to spend 1:1 time with your son. Talk to him. Ask him about his day, what he thinks about this and that. Just talk to him. Throw a ball with him. Cook a meal with him. It might be hard at first but it will get better. Stick with it and don't lose your cool if he's a toad the first few times. He needs to know you're in his corner, then BE in his corner. This is the best thing you can do for your family right now.

7) Take some time out for you to decompress whether it's a job during lunch, an hour of reading or playing a video game at night or whatever. Nourish your soul too.

8) Eat well and sleep well. You have better coping skills when your physical needs are being met. Avoid junk food and simple carbs if you can. Eat fresh and clean and you'll feel better. (Plus it's often cheaper.)

9) start looking for another job. Put in applications everywhere, even if it means you'd have to move. If you start doing this now, you'll rest better because you'll feel like you're doing something to change your situation.

10) Try and get antidepressants for yourself too.

Really, you can do this. It's hard but take it one day or even one hour at a time and you can get through it. You have value and your life has meaning, even if it's not readily apparent to you.[/quote]

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