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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Currently going through this with DH.  We've been married for 10 years.  He says it feels more like roommates.  But when I ask what married people who have lived together for 10 years and have 2 kids do differently than roommates, he has no response.

So for those of you who have been married a long time, how is your marriage different than being roommates?[/quote]

It's just more like friends. It's always been this way for me. I had an arranged marriage and my husband is super super sweet. [/quote]

PP here-- this is what I don't get.  We've known each other for 30 years and married for 10.  We were friends before marriage.  What does he want?  Sparks, butterflies, excitement when the phone rings?  Our sex life is still fantastic.  We usually have sex 3x/day-- once before bed, once in the middle of the night, and once when we wake up.  I am honestly at a loss as to what he's looking for in our marriage so that we are a couple and not just roommates.[/quote]

I have never had sex with my roommate three times a day. I think he has unreasonable expectations. Is he a sex addict?[/quote]

I don't hes a sex addict.  It's just always been good between us and we enjoy each other's body's.  The before bed is the passionate sex.  The middle of the night is comfortable sex.  And the the morning sex is let's get a quicky in before the kids walk in.  This one gets interrupted by the kids probably 2-3 times a week and makes night time sex even better.

But beyond the sex, I don't know what he wants in order to not be roommates.  We both work full time.  I get home by 4 and start with the kids activities and he gets home around 7.  Kids are 5 and 8.  I try to get the kids in bed by 8 but it's usually more like 9 before it really happens.  I would say that we probably need to "date" more but beyond that I'm lost.  I will admit that conversations are hard.  We can talk about the kids and work but not much else.  After 30 yrs, there are no new stories to tell.[/quote]

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