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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She should not say anything to you that she would not say to a friend. She needs to view your relationship as equals and therefore not give advice unless asked. This is the ideal. How you get to this point is difficult. You can be very firm but you have to be willing to weather the adjustment period. There may be push-back, hurt feelings, emotional manipulation. To be equals it is very important that you are not dependent. You can't have it both ways. You can't have their respect as an equal and rely on favors of money, free vacations or free childcare. Many adult children take, but then are surprised when they aren't viewed as independent equals.[/quote]

OP here, We are not @ all dependent on them. In fact, I make extra effort not to be dependent upon them. Financially, they are dependent upon us. At times, they take care of our kids especially during Summer vacation. I plan to put my kids in Summer Camp all the time, so we are not dependent upon them[/quote]

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