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[quote=Anonymous]Over the summer, my brother sent a text offering to host my mom (who lives alone and is a handful) for Thanksgiving.

I said thanks, and I'll take that info and offer our home for Christmas.

(We live in 3 states.)

I called my mom 2 weeks ago. No response.
I spoke to her last week. She brushed me off and told me to call another time. No reason given. Just that I should call back during the week (in retrospect, I remember saying I had 20 minutes or so, and I thought I'd check in, but I think she wanted more time so she could have a good rant.)
I spoke to her today (she called). I asked when she was leaving to see him and she said she had no plans to go, but wondered where I got that info.
"From him. A long time ago. I had no idea you weren't going. Would you like to here instead?"
"No. I don't think I want to travel." (She is young, relatively healthy, doesn't work, doesn't have any pets...) She said she was going to visit a friend.

She explained that she bought a ticket to see my brother for Christmas, but thought she'd come see me after Christmas.

I offered 2 other dates between now and then if she didn't want to come for Thanksgiving. I got 3 nos in total.

When I mentioned my kid had been ill and I was still recovering from a serious injury (well known), so I could not travel now (her suggestion-that I come to have some quality time on her turf) and I was asked why I don't ask for help. She has plenty of time.

Dude? I just asked you to come see me (and your grandkids) 3 times.

Just in case you were wondering what MY problem is, now you know. I just don't utilize all of the family love and support that falls from the sky on the reg.

The good news is I get to buy the small turkey (or go a restaurant) for my party of 5.

My concern (in addition to a desire to vent) is that she mentioned she has been "loopy" and "spacey" and is changing her medications, including some for anxiety and depression against her "stupid" doctor's advice. Been down that road before. Could she be missing out on entire conversations?

Do I need to just buckle up? 
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