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[quote=Anonymous]Sometime when there isn't a crisis or issue going on, you need to sit down and have a household discussion with your brother.  You need to establish the rules of the household.  Let him know that if he can't adhere to the household rules then it will be time for him to find alternative room and board.

Also identify ways to compensate when he doesn't adhere.  For example, he can help with household chores or he will contribute $X to hire a cleaning service to clean.  He will not overload the w/d.  If the appliances break because he overloaded them, he will be responsible for paying the service fee to have the units serviced.  Since he's hiding out in his room to avoid interacting with you and your husband, I would tell him, no dishes in the bedroom.  If he wants to eat in there, he can buy paper plates and dishes to eat, but that he needs to empty the garbage in his room daily so that it doesn't attract bugs.  If bugs start showing up in his room, you'll hire an exterminator and he'll pay for the service.  Tell him that if he does not wipe down the bathroom that you'll start taking his clothes wipe down the bathroom.  After you clean the bathroom with some of his clean tee shirts and he has to do more laundry, he'll get the picture.

Alternatively, you can just treat him like a renter and tell him that there is a $X monthly cleaning fee to take care of all of those cleaning chores that he doesn't and then apply his money towards a weekly cleaning service that comes through and cleans especially his room and public spaces.[/quote]

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