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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I do not miss holiday drama at all.

No one will be happy. It ruins everything. [/quote]

How did you eliminate it? Inquiring minds to know.[/quote]

NP, but for us eliminating drama around holiday visits was simply finding a compromise that worked for the two of us as a couple, and then standing united in that decision even when other family got upset. They can get upset, but that doesn't mean we have to go on their trip.

In this case, I think OP and her husband should consider switching off years when they get to choose what to do that stays consistent with the current alternation (since OP's family is synced up to this alternation, and that's a significant consideration for me). This year is an exception due to how pregnant OP will be, they're staying home but still giving OP's in-laws an opportunity to come up for Christmas; if the in-laws are unwilling to adapt in light of extenuating circumstances, that's on them, not OP and her husband. Next year it's OP's turn to choose. She can choose to visit her family, or have Christmas at home. 2017 is OP's husband's turn again, and he can choose taking the family to visit his parents, or staying home.[/quote]

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