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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Anyone else diagnosed with decreased ovarian reserve who is experiencing secondary infertility?  Been TTC for 6 months with no pregnancy.  Blood tests and ultrasound showed very few eggs remaining.  I am really upset and not sure how to proceed.  I'm 37.  Conceived our child quickly (after one month of TTC) and easily just 2 years ago, so this comes as a complete shock.  Not only am I upset about the secondary infertility but also the implications for premature menopause.  My family history on both sides is of very fertile women, having babies with their own eggs well into their 40s.

However, for the last 6 months my cycles have shortened by 2 days and I knew I wasn't ovulating.

I'm leaning towards being content with my only child and not pursuing fertility treatments.  Husband is not of this same perspective, wants to do IVF, and [b]is very resentful towards me because of this diagnosis[/b].  Any thoughts from others who have been there too?[/quote]

That is not ok.   He can be upset that you won't pursue treatment, but he is not allowed to be mad that you have a medical condition.  Please have him examine those feelings before moving forward.  How is it your fault you are going through early menopause?[/quote]

OP here.  He is resentful because he wanted to have kids earlier in our marriage, but I insisted we wait 5 years because I was not ready until we started to TTC, at which point we got pregnant right away (thankfully).  But he is resentful because as a result of being AMA, now we are having difficulty getting pregnant with #2.  DH really wants more than one child.  I am content with one, but I am upset that the choice has been taken away from me by biology.  I am fine with having an only child, which makes the idea of facing all the IVF treatments very unappealing.  I don't want to take hormones, we have a lot of reproductive cancers in the family (ovarian, uterine, breast) and I don't want to do anything to elevate my risk.  DH wants to proceed with treatment because his ideal family size is more than one child.[/quote]

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