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OP, why do you think your FIL needs help? I'll say that if you don't like his finantial choices now, you really won't like them once your money is involved. Second, why is him living with you off the table?If he needs week-long visits from his son, then either he is in way worse shape then you want to admit, or your husband is using dad as a way to avoid something. Maybe he's avoiding work, maybe he's avoiding the kids, maybe he's avoiding you. When he is gone, you will be the solo parent, and since he won't see the kids anyway, it's no accident that he is calling out "sacrificing" the kids activities and college funds. Hint, it's not a sacrifice unless it causes you some discomfort to give it. When your husband is gone, it makes no difference to him if Johnny goes to soccer or not. Also, spending a week at a time with his dad may not be all that difficult for your husband. He gets grown up time to do things with his dad or by himself or with friends assuming he has any or can make them easily. He is free from any husband or kid tasks. He will probably learn things about his dad that he wouldn't otherwise and that's always interesting. Your kids will learn nothing from this experience, all they will experience or remember is that Dad isn't home and if they are lucky that he always comes back. Before you go into counceling, think about what you want, and what you need/want your husband to do. From where I sit, I am troubled that he thinks that spending week long visits with his father without you and the kids seeminglI don't think his dad is the real issue, his dad is just a socially acceptable means of getting away from an adult lifestyle.y forever is acceptable. There is a reason he is choosing to do that v. spend his time at work and with you guys. [/quote]

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