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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I could and would be happy to host. My offer has been declined. I would like my children to spend Christmas with their grandparents.[/quote]

This is hard, OP.  And it sounds like you have a few different things you need to work out.  Talk with your mom and maybe your sister.  Is it that they don't want to spend Christmas with you and your spouse and kids, or that they don't like the cramped quarters?  If the latter, then offer to stay in a hotel, or even you and DH stay in a hotel but one night your kids stay the night in the house with their grandparents.  If it's the former, that's tough since it means that your desires for Christmas just don't line up with those of your parents or sister.

Does your sister have kids?  If not, how does she feel about your's? Even if she loves them, could she want an "adult" Christmas that doesn't feel as if it's built around your little ones?  Or, is she/has she has fertility issues and simply being around your kids is hard?  Or, and this can be tough to admit, are you or your immediate family challenging in anyway (bratty kids, hard-drinking DH, etc)?

I understand that you want to spend Christmas with your family if you can, but everyone needs to be able to communicate what they really want.  Talk with mom and sis.[/quote]

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