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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm not clear how you're being a hypocrite here. You made a mistake in the past that you seem to regret and recognize was a bad decision. Now you're trying to tell her not to make the same mistake because of the harm it caused. Being a hypocrite isn't about not wanting people to make the same mistakes you did, it's about holding others to a different standard than you hold yourself, such as by feeling it's okay for you to do something that you tell others they shouldn't do. Maybe more details about the decision would be helpful for us to understand your sister's position?[/quote]

OP here. I guess I do hold her to a different standard to myself in the sense that I expect her to make better decisions for herself. I have never said "i did X and yay me it was awesome!!! but YOU CANT DO IT!!" I've more likely said, "I did x because  I was stuck in a very difficult situation and I did not know better. It turned out okay but it was NOT easy and it caused a LOT OF PAIN to people I love. I don't understand why you're doing the SAME thing knowing how much anxiety it caused me and the pain it has caused our family."

She feels like I'm telling her to stop doing something that is secretly oh so amazing and I want something worse for her or something.[/quote]

OP, I think you're still being a little too vague here, but I can see why you're pissing her off. You're making excuses for your previous bad behavior ("I was stuck in a very difficult situation and I did not know better"), and also presuming to know what's best for her and her life. Did she actually ask your opinion of this decision, or are you inserting yourself uninvited?[/quote]

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