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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In the case of my brother, I essentially cut him out of my life.

Family or not, mental illness or not, one is never obligated to maintain a relationship with someone who continually hurts you. Emotionally, physically, whatever.

It doesn't matter if they can control their issues or not. People who regularly lie, gossip, harass you, have anger issues, manipulate, berate you, (etc) are not rational people with whom you can "deal" with in the first place. It is impossible.

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+1, in my case it is my sister.

i am pretty convinced that my father is unmedicated bipolar.  that has been trickier.  i have two kids.  my DH supported me not engaging my sister any longer because she was outright horrible to me and said and did some awful things that cannot be taken back.  my father was a complete asshole growing up - either not around emotionally or when he was, just a bully.  he still swings back and forth now.  i went through a period where i wanted to cut him out (before i cut out my sister) and DH really pushed me not too.  over the years DH has learned how toxic my father is and now that we have young kids he understands the hell it was to grow up with him with no buffer.  i told him recently i did not want the kids spending time at my parents' house (out of town) without us around and DH has FINALLY come around and agreed to this after our last visit home and witnessing some of my father's BS.

it's hard, OP.  i mean, it's family.  and i feel like, what is wrong with me that i want to cut these people out?  but, like PP said, mentally ill or not, it is NOT okay for people to treat you like shit, no matter if it is mental illness or just bad behavior.[/quote]

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