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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My kids went through magnet programs in MCPS. And while they did great and continue to do great, I spent a lot of time with them ensuring that they do their work.

I realized that studying, doing homework etc. - is a matter of habit and discipline.  These habits need to be formed and this discipline needs to be instilled.

What normal child will choose work (study) over play?   So, it is important to set up a schedule and adhere to it.  Lack of motivation and procrastination is normal and even the so-called high achieving child has to work through them.

Even as adults - if we were given an option not to do any work or chores - we will take it. It is only that we know that there are long term consequences of not doing the work that pushes us to tackle them.  So, setting goals and schedules and adhering to it is how you get started. Motivation will build up over time when these efforts will bring success. [/quote]

Oh, screw you for taking the credit for having motivated kids.  We had motivated and unmotivated kids, high achievers and low achievers, and we neither took credit for their achievements nor blame for their failures.  So get off your high horse.

My advice to the OP is that there are lots of unmotivated students out there in their early teens.  Many will kick it up a notch, but some won't.  And many, many, have lower grades than your daughter.  If your child keeps a 3.0 to 3.5 and tests well enough she'll have plenty of good college options without any extracurricular activities.  Truly only the very top colleges really care about that.  I'd be very careful about sending her to a private college, though, because the risk is too high that she'll drop out.

My further advice is that if she doesn't want to get involved in any extracurriculars than don't make her.  Insist she get a part-time job.  The benefits to her self-esteem are just as good if not better than most ECs, and she'll feel good making money.     [/quote]

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