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[quote=Anonymous]I was married for to a woman for 10 years. We didn't have any kids. During the course of the marriage I was the breadwinner. This was not by choice, but rather due to the refusal of my ex to acquire a full time job. This created a multitude of issues within our marriage and ultimately led to a divorce.
I was ordered by a judge to pay alimony for 10 years because I allowed her (age 38 at the time) to become dependent on me. 
I have since moved out of state and have zero contact with her or anyone that knows her. The support is garnished from my paycheck.
So since the divorce, she has of course acquired full time employment and makes enough to support herself. She is extremely bitter that I left her, and has the attitude that I should pay.
So she goes to great lengths to hide the fact that she now lives in a common law marriage with a man and has for years.

I am at a disadvantage in recovering information on her, as I live 3000 miles away. I am interested in terminating the spousal support but not sure its worth the time and effort.
Does anyone have any advice for or against. Or any ideas of how I can resolve this? I have 4 years left to pay. It's just about 20% of my pretax income. I do get to write it off and receive a tax benefit from it.
I'm leary about involving lawyers because I've already paid around 50k for the divorce that she dragged out. Given her half the equity in the house we had. And supported her for the duration of the marriage and beyond.

In a perfect world I'd like to go after her for the fraud she's committed for the past however many years she's been living with her common law husband. Any ideas or advice?[/quote]

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