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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] We are aware he may be gay, but refuse to label our child.  As for now he's just DS.
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He's seven.  And you [i]are [/i]labeling him.

When I was six, I wanted to dress like Daddy.  I wore brown corduroys and played with trucks.  I didn't even own dolls.

I'm now 36, straight, and married to a man.  That kind of behavior in a child likely means nothing.

You're really reaching.  I suspect this is just another case of parents wanting to feel there is something "special" about their child.[/quote]

Yes, OP is labeling the child as "possibly gay". I don't perceive that as a problem. Every seven-year-old child is possibly gay (as well as possibly not-gay).

OP is also labeling the child as "gender non-conforming", which seems to me an accurate description of "a very happy boy, who just enjoys things that are stereotypically feminine".[/quote]

Right, so why label a child as possibly gay?  Why introduce that thought into their head?  Why not just let things go where they go?
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It's only a problem if you think being gay is wrong, and OP specifically asked folks to refrain from homophobia on this thread.  I introduce the idea to my kids that they might marry a man OR a woman, which won't make them gay but will make them know that I really don't care if they are.

To the OP - I think gender nonconforming is a good way to think about this.  It may change with time or it may not, but I do think that getting him into a therapist to work on resiliency might not be the worst idea.  [/quote]

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