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[quote=Anonymous]would like to get some thoughts on my situation. fiance's mother (MIL) has been sickly on and off for several years. there is no end date or stage level to her illness, it's just a "continue treatment and see if her illness can be cured, and if not cured, then managed" type of thing. she is mid 60s.

we have been engaged for 9 months and we are finalizing wedding plans- no religious ceremony. MIL asked fiance and me to come to a party she was hosting at her home. at the party, a woman in religious outfit came up to me and said, "it's nice to actually meet you, but i hope i won't have to see you again." i was puzzled by this. she said, "you don't know who i am?" i was getting weirded out and told her i had no clue who she was or what she was talking about. the woman said, "I'm MIL's priest/minister, etc. She said I will be the one to marry you all in a small ceremony if her health takes a turn for the worse. that's why i joked i hope i don't actually see you again!"

i stood there in shock. fiance and i have not talked with MIL or anyone else about ANY type of alternate or "moved up" wedding or exchanging of vows. even more, fiance and i decided together to not have any sort of religious ceremony. MIL knows that. I do not share the same denomination or church membership as MIL and her minister. fiance grew up in that same denomination, but he is no longer religious, and like i said earlier, we BOTH decided to not have any religious tone in our wedding.

why is she making these decisions and having these conversations? i'm frustrated![/quote]

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