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[quote=Anonymous]Do some research on "slide vs decide". The divorce rate is higher for couples that lived together prior to getting engaged or married. One theory is that it's so difficult to break up and separate all the stuff that mediocre relationships 'slide' into marriage. There wasn't anything wrong and no reason to break up, so they just allowed the marriage to happen. 
Also, many people waste YEARS in relationships that aren't going any where because it is easier to stay together. So now you are a 36yo woman who's been with and living with a guy for 7 years. And you break up. And the baby panic intensifies. But if you hadn't been living together, you'd have seen that by year 3 things weren't going to work out.

At a minimum, wait to move in together until the first year honeymoon period has past. Then only move in if you have had the "where are we going" talk and have a timeline for engagement or break up. Meaning, we think this is moving toward marriage. Within 1 year, we will either be engaged or breaking up. If we aren't engaged (and planning a wedding within the next year), then we will break up.

DH and I didn't move in together until after we were engaged and wedding planned. Lived together 3 months before the wedding. [/quote]

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