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[quote=Anonymous]Would appreciate advice about whether and how to respond to men who contact me when they list preferred body types that don't match mine.  I listed myself as "full figured"; I'm a size 18.  Many men who are contacting me list their preference as "slender; athletic and toned; average".  They themselves are athletic or average body types.  Many specify that they take care of themselves and are looking for someone else who does as well (which I read as meaning no fat women).

In addition to choosing "full figured", I have flattering but representative pictures of myself, including several full body shots.  I travel, I'm active, I just ran a 5K--my pictures show me doing activities I love, and they do show that I'm active--but fat.

I guess I'm afraid that if I meet up with one in person, despite having accurately represented myself in my profile, these guys are going to be displeased by seeing my dimensions in person.  I'm not overly sensitive, but I don't want to waste my time and I don't want to feel hurt.  Part of me wants to respond and make double sure they know I'm plus size--but that just seems defensive and negative. [/quote]

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