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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Maybe some negative attention is what he needs.  Try saying, NO![/quote]

Trust me, he's gotten plenty of negative attention for it. Maybe too much. Thanks to the second PP. We do try to get him involved in helping us, doing something constructive, etc. I'm not so great at being patient, but also at some point I feel like he should just do what we ask when it's something simple like "stop that" or "put your shoes on." I tend to explain things so I'm not just saying "because I said so," but lately I feel like maybe that's been a mistake. Every.Little.Thing. Doesn't need to be negotiations and arguments! [/quote]

The kids all know that I will explain my reasoning for why I want them to do anything.  But they have to do it first.  This cuts arguments about whether it's necessary down fast, because it's already done.  If the child thinks that not doing it is the other option, then they lose a privilege directly related (doesn't want to get shoes on so we can leave means that instead of going to the park and then the grocery store, we'll skip the park and just do the store).  I offer choices when they are age appropriate and I can live with either choice (ie. we can go to the park and then the library or the library and then the park, doesn't matter to me what the order is).  I prefer natural consequences that take the "bad guy" persona away from the parent and make the issue between the child and their behavior, as it gives the child an incentive to figure out why the behavior is inappropriate.[/quote]

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