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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you didn't tell her, why not?  Is it because you weren't sure whether it was love?  Or were the circumstances inappropriate?  I think this happens in men and I'm trying to understand it.  Have you ever been in a relationship or friendship where you knew you were in love with the woman but you never told her?  Or have you been in a relationship where the woman tells you she loves you, but you don't say it back because you don't return the feeling?  What would you call the feeling you did feel if you wouldn't call it love?[/quote]

2 reasons why he isn't saying he loves you...
1) he doesn't love you. He likes you but there is something missing. He can't put his finger on it and doesn't want to be mean. So he will stretch things out hoping he can force himself to love you (he won't be able to) or that things are comfortable, so why not just stay in this until something better comes along.

2) he does love you, but can't say it. Whatever the reason (he's scared, he's been hurt before (haven't we all?), he's not a very expressive person), it doesn't matter. All that matters is, do you need him to say I love you? Are you okay being with someone who can't or won't say it? If the answer is No, then leave. (Or give yourself a mental deadline of how long you will wait, then leave). For me I learned I need to be a guy who's actions matched his words and his words matched his actions. I needed to hear I Love You at some point.

Then there is the weird mind-fuck that women come up with, "I know that He loves me but he just doesn't know how to experience love". This is so messed up. You aren't his therapist. It isn't your job to fix him. If he was so messed up in life that he doesn't even know how to experience love, then you need to leave. There are so many levels of messed up that will take years of therapy to unravel. And you can't do that for him. Your love will not unravel it for him. Staying will not open him up. Leave, leave, leave. [/quote]

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