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[quote=Anonymous]Ok, let me preface this by saying that I know this really is not a big deal and I know I'm being kind of a jerk.  I have 2 young kids, am a sahm, and dh works long hours. All my siblings and cousins do not have kids (yet) and I love them and I know I'm lucky that my kids have them, because they are the fun aunties and uncles who buy them treats and do fun stuff with them.

However, I am really starting to get tired of the huge disconnect I have with them- they just really have no idea, no clue, about real day to day life with kids and I'm tired of always being the designated party pooper. I know they can't help it, I was equally clueless before kids.

I am the one who always has to be the bad guy with them, like no, you can't keep my kid up for 3 hours past her bedtime, no you can't feed her candy and sweets all day. No you can't keep bribing my kid to get her to listen. And when it comes to giving a hand with basic routine stuff like making sure they eat their meals, go potty, wash hands, clean up their toys after playing, changing diapers, etc, they go missing.

They always want me to visit or "stop by" with the kids, and they live out of state, and they have no idea how much harder it is to travel with the kids than it is for them without kids.  They always want to hang out in the evenings late into the night, the time I usually spend trying to get 100 things done between prepping dinner, getting kids ready for bed, and doing bedtime routines.

They are always saying stuff about my kids, like how they are too into their routine/schedule.  They don't understand why I can't just let the kids stay up late as they want and hang out and just let them fall asleep watching tv.

They want to do vacations and trips with me and the kids, but have no idea what that entails with 2 kids, and non-family-friendly excursions. They don't know why it's not ok to just leave the kids alone in the house after they go to bed, while I go out to hang out with them. They expect equal participation from me with planning family stuff, getting gifts, etc, and don't seem to understand or care that I just don't have time to do it all while taking care of a 3yo and an infant. They think that since I'm not working, I'm just hanging out at home all day with all this free time on my hands.

I'm tired of it! I wish they'd just hurry up and have kids so they finally get it!!
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