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[quote=Anonymous]Lower your expectations to rock bottom. Expect each day to be something to get through rather than something fun and enjoyable. But as a PP said, if there are activities you can plan for, do it! Anything that gets everyone out of the house is good. It changes the dynamic, stimulates the kids, gives the day some structure.

Decide that you are your children's ally and you will not let your MIL or the tension she creates turn you against your kids or use them as a vent for your negative feelings.

If there's a book you've been looking forward to reading, bring it. Feel free to carve out "me" time and let your DH and his parents have some time alone with the kids. You are entitled to be a co-driver of what happens on this trip, especially with respect to how you spend your own time. Just go for it and don't worry if MIL seems annoyed. Someone is often going to be annoyed, so why not let it be her sometimes?

Try to ignore her annoying comments. Best revenge for that is no response and no engagement. Noncommittal "hmmm" sounds and then change the subject. Amuse yourself by counting how many baggy guilt comments she makes, or see if she can top the worst thing she said last time. Text a close friend whenever MIL says or does something annoying or nutty (it helps to have a place to vent, to turn it into a joke, and to remember that this is not your normal life and the visit is just an interlude).

If you drink, then imbibe moderately but often![/quote]

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