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[quote=Anonymous]I don't want to hijack OP's post in the Offtopic forum, but I have similar issues about learning to forgive  but mine has to do with a member of my birth family.

I'm looking for other perspectives/experiences.

For background, one sibling bullied me mercilessly as a child. Physically and emotionally. She actually tied me up one time in the backyard and then ran away. Somehow I was able to work the rope loose and free myself. Throwing me down when I had a friend over and not letting me get up. A huge bully, you get the picture. To this day, my sister still tries to get a dig in whenever possible. Examples of some comments: "Since you are so much older than most parents, I guess you can't really think about retirement."

Or about DD's BF "we're going to order pizza.... I can tell by looking at X that he likes pizza!"

I've severely curtailed encounters with her and try to be distant when we are together. I have worked on this in therapy and don't feel near the amount of anger I used to . My therapist also coached me with "talking points" about how to respond to her nastiness.

I can see that my sister has positive points, but just don't feel like dealing with her much. We get together for major holidays only, and that is enough for me. Really the only reason I maintain the relationship is for our kids. I do think extended family is important and she is decent to my kids.( Our parents are no longer living, so we don't need to work together on those issues anymore)
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WWYD in this situation? Leave it as is? At times I can tell she wishes we were closer, but I really don't feel like explaining why I am (mostly) happy with things as they are.[/quote]

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