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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I didn't see the problem. I've heard and given this response and it would never occur to me to find it offensive.

You: you want to give over for a bbq next Saturday?

Respondent looks at calendar: we're not doing anything,  so sure.

What's the problem? I think you're just looking for a reason to be offended. [/quote]

This. [/quote]
Same. If I had other plans, I would politely decline. 
OP may be reading this statement backwards. It is not intended as "well, I guess since we have nothing better" but "great! So glad I didn't rsvp to anything since I love spending time with you!"
I hate it when I make plans and then have to decline something I would enjoy more. But it is important to honor commitments.[/quote]

What you're all missing is the idea that the only reason you'd say yes is because you don't have anything better to do.  It would never occur to me to reply with "We're not doing anything, so..." because that sounds like the most lukewarm, "Gosh, if only we had better options but we don't, so we'll see you/attend your event".  That's how that sounds.

I'd never say it that way, I usually respond with "Thanks for the invite, sounds great!  Let me see if we're available..." and then see if it works on our calendar or not, and be sufficiently positive, not just ambivalent or "Yeah, cuz we don't have any better options". [/quote]

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