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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm not talking about trickery or forcing him into the decision or into having kids that he doesn't really want. It is not something I take lightly and I realize how important it is for us both to be in agreement about how many kids we want/can handle. Currently, this is all just hypothetical as we just have 1 baby (under a year old). But things are going so well and we're both so loving being parents thus far that I've been thinking a lot about how many we ultimately want to have (yes, I know we don't have control over this but in an ideal world...). We are both 30 so we have some time but I'd love to have 4 kids (and be done having kids before I'm 40) and so I don't want to wait too long! Meanwhile, my husband thinks we should only have 2 kids. He only has 1 sibling, each of his parents only has 1 sibling...it's his 'norm' He's also more concerned than I am about money, I think primarily because he grew up not having much $$ whereas I grew up fairly wealthy so he understandably  worries more about finances than I do but I think I'm pretty realistic about finances too. [b]We currently are doing just fine-- no debt and both have stable, lucrative careers.[/b]

Anyone out there have a similar situation and were you ever able to get your spouse agree to have more kids? If so, what types of things helped you convince them?[/quote]

OP, the question isn't how you're doing currently.  It's how does your future earnings trajectory match up with the expenses of four children?  Will you be able to fund all of their activities, pay for college to whatever extent you think you should, etc.  Will you really be able to both work full-time when you have 4 kids under 10?  What about the possibility of special needs that are expensive and also require you to leave your job?  What are your home ownership and retirement goals?  You and your DH may not be on the same page about what your future financial obligations actually are.  [/quote]

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