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[quote=Anonymous]My parents divorced a few years ago. In that time, my mom has squandered and/or given away most of the money she had. She has very few assets. She is 59 and has almost nothing saved for retirement. She has also had some performance problems at work in the last few years.

A couple of months ago, when I mentioned that DH and I might be purchasing a home this summer, we talked about the possibility of her coming to stay during her summer (her work has summers off) since we would have an extra bedroom if we bought a larger house. She could use it as a chance to look for a job around here, since she is tired of her job and cold winters where she lives. I did make it clear that she should absolutely NOT QUIT HER JOB until a buyer has closed on her condo, which she agreed to.

DH and I decided not to move to the exurbs, which leaves us with slim pickings and whether we buy or rent our home will be very small. I am not working right now. I'm looking, but I also told my mom that maybe it isn't a good idea to come if I am not working. We can't support her. She does have a small pension that she will be receiving.

She is preparing to put her condo on the market, which is fine and good; she could not really afford it anyway and needed to make some serious changes to her budget. 
She has called me a few times in the last couple of weeks, during work hours, from her house. Today, a third party confirmed my guy feeling that she is no longer at her job.

I am extremely upset that she was not forthcoming about this, nor has she been forthcoming about her finances. I DO NOT want her moving in under these circumstances, but the alternative will probably have her moving in with her shyster brother who will suck her completely dry of money.

I have no idea what to do.[/quote]

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