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[quote=Anonymous]When I went on college tours for prospective students at age 16 and 17 (granted, this was a WHILE ago), there were several schools that had school-sponsored parties or mixers that had loads of alcohol.  In other words, I got to experiment right off the bat before I'd even graduated from HS with that environment and making choices.  NOT that I advocate giving 17 and 18 yr old HS students copious amounts of alcohol at school-sponsored events.  I'm just saying what happened, and I think in the end it is ENTIRELY about what you know about your child.  Me, I was already calling most of my social shots from 16 on (long story, but I had very little supervision), but I liked being in control and knew there was danger out there, so I never got out of control.  But I had peers who were drinking from 14 or 15 and their parents had no idea, and of course they went wilding when the got to college, and it was bad.  If their parents had been more communicative wiht them while they lived at home, they probably could have had much better conversations about responsible choices.

So that leaves me feeling like you know your child OP.  Sounds like you've had the key conversations with her - I think you need to think about what 2 or 3 things you're most concerned about, talk to your DD first and then her BF and her together abotu the trip, and then let them go.  I assume your DD has a cell phone?  Also encourage her to be in contact with you if ANYTHING at all makes her uncomfortable or she's worried about anything.

Then process her trip when she gets back, so you know whether to trust her even more next time, or change her college options to only local schools and lock her at home.

JOKING about the last part!!! :D[/quote]

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