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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not so much advice, but I just wanted to say that I can commiserate. Not so much about the mother thing but the other dynamic you describe is me and my husband exactly. I too am tired of taking the reins, solving the problems, doing the organizing, doing the research, doing everything. We just got back from a trip for Spring Break. When he initially suggested the trip to visit a sibling in another state in a cool city, I said, "OK, you do the planning and just let us know when we're leaving." I really wanted this one vaca to be on him, but he didn't lift a finger. I genuinely feel like I have three children instead of two. And like you, OP, I love him, but I really feel like a single parent. And he throws up roadblocks and criticizes all suggestions and decisions without doing any of the work to the point where I don't really tell him much of anything. I find myself doing my own thing more and more and I know that in the longterm this is bad for my marriage, but I just so tired of dealing with his reactions. I can tell him 8 times that we need to leave at "x time" for an event, and five minutes before we are to leave he's still sitting with his computer on the coach, unshowered. So, I've started doing they whole, "you don't have to go...I'll just take the kids by myself." Sorry to hijack. Just saying that I get it.  [/quote]

Thank you for commiserating.  It really is nice to hear that someone else can relate.  I know that other couples face the same issues, but I am not the type to air my dirty laundry, so I don't really have these conversations with others.  As far as feeling that DH is another child in the relationship, that is exactly how I feel.  He is like the worst of a child -- dependent, whining, demanding of attention -- but then he wants equal say in things.  The one area in which DH truly excels is vacation planning, but that just pisses me off sometimes because it shows that he is capable of detail orientation and planning when he really wants something.  Yet, he cannot muster the same abilities in the less fun, mundane tasks that make our lives run.[/quote]

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