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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My MIL is a chronic over gifter. Gift giving is her love language, and I am really trying to accept her gifts with a spirit of appreciation rather than irritation. She sends boxes of wrapped gifts for every holiday and birthday. We just got our Easter box and it includes about 6 wrapped gifts for each of my 3 children. Each gift is small, like a craft kit from the dollar aisle at target or cheap sunglasses. I just don't see opening a pile of wrapped gifts from grandparents as something I want to include in our Easter tradition. We will be having baskets from the bunny and a little hunt but I don't want the kids to come to expect lots of gifts to open at Easter. They are 4,2 and 9months so they dont know the difference btw a pile of gifts that costs $10 and a pile that costs $100. I always go through her boxes and take out things to put away for later, like for airplane rides or rainy days. Is it rude to ask my MiL if she would mind if I put the rest of the stuff in the baskets and say it's from the bunny? I was thinking I could give them one thing from her so they know she was thinking of them, then divide the rest btw baskets and closet for later. Do you think she would be offended? I feel like it's a good compromise but I realize it means the kids won't know she picked all the stuff out for them. [/quote]

OMG op, this is my mom to a tee.  My kids are 10 and 12 now.  My advice is take one thing per kid, like you say, but donate the rest.  Don't save it.  And this is tricky, as her DIL you could offend her by having the talks I've had with my mom--and frankly, don't bother because I can assure you that it will have NO EFFECT whatsoever on the gift load, (but may on the relationship).  LOL!

The one thing where I put my foot down is if she gives money, I take it and don't let the kids see it.  I have been very firm with my mom (so your DH should be with your MIL) to NOT tell the kids how much money she's given them for Christmas or whatever.  It gets in the way of you training your kid to strive when your kid says, "I don't have to worry about college, grandma's already put money in the bank for it," or "fine, you won't get me X?  I'll just ask grandma/I'll just use the money grandma gave me"

The sooner you can come to terms with throwing out or donating unwanted toys/candy/treats, the better you will feel.  Purple Heart Veterans has a great pick-up service.

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