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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You say that you have a few close friendships that you've had for a long time. That's great, and really, that's what most of us strive for. Do you think you'd be less lonely if you weren't SAH? I only have a few very close friends who I see regularly, but I work in a busy office where I have lots of interaction with co-workers and clients. So I'm perfectly happy to spend quiet evenings at home with my husband and child. I also make time to spend a good chunk of time with close friends, even if it's only for a girls' weekend once a year. Having a sizeable chunk of time where we can reconnect and really share what's going on in our lives is really important to me.

If you're looking to meet new people: book clubs, volunteering at your kids' school, playdates, gym classes, knitting or scrapbooking classes, volunteer opportunities. I've met some wonderful mothers while sorting clothes for a kid's clothes swap, for example, or chaperoning a field trip.[/quote]

OP here.  I have 2 friends from college (who live out of state) who I've known since college, and then a few friends here that I made in the last 5 years.  However, I need more friends.  The friends here don't seem to want/be able to get together more than once every few months, and I need more social interaction than that.

I am very lonely, but I don't think being a SAHM has anything to do with it.  If anything, I was more lonely when I worked full-time, pre-kids.  When I worked full-time I tried so hard to become friends with the other women in my office, and they weren't interested, and I was excluded from a lot of inter-office friendships.  It was also lonely hearing about everyone's weekend plans during lunch when I never had any.

Anyhow, I have tried many different ways to make friends but none of it is working.  I just wonder if maybe I don't really know how to make friends (do I need social skills help?) because my parents never had any friends.  That's unusual in itself, I think.  They said they didn't want or need friends.  Oddly, though, my mother didn't have a good relationship with my father so they didn't even spend much time together, and didn't enjoy spending time together.[/quote]

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