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Reply to "Why do I keep fighting with my husband about the same stuff?"
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[quote=Anonymous]Read some books by John Gottman. He says that 75% of marital conflict will never be resolved. That's right, what you are fighting about now, you will be fighting about 20 years from now. All you can do is negotiate something that BOTH of you can live with. He also talks about how you need to have a 5:1 ratio of good to bad thing to keep a relationship healthy. So even when you are fighting, find ways to add to your love bank--say thank you whenever you can (thank you for taking out the trash-even if you had to remind him, thank him for going to work every day to make money, etc) or touch when you pass in the hallway. Think of ways to focus on the good, not the bad. Doesn't make the bad go away, but you do have enough currency in the love bank that you can deal with it better. [/quote]
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