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[quote=Anonymous]I'll start by saying that my mother in law is an absolute handful.

She favors my SIL's kids over mine.  She tells my husband that he is "not successful."  She says things to my kids, such as "your mom's not in charge on this one... I am," when she asks them what they want for Christmas. I won't go into all the details, but I really just don't appreciate the way she speaks to her son (my husband) and the way she plays favorites with her grandchildren. My husband doesn't deal with her much either, as she has pretty much taxed him out.  She's one of those people that thrives on co-dependency.  These days, its my SIL who needs her help, so she's latched on to her like no other, because my SIL needs her help.  NOTE:  SIL is basically an irresponsible Mom who cares more about hanging out with friends than taking care of her kids. She's 35, but acts like she's about 22.  My husband (her son) is an "all hands on deck) type of parent and works very hard, so I think she's a ashamed of her daughter (my SIL) and instead of telling her to get her act together, MIL displaces her disgust on my husband.

Well, with all that being said, at family gatherings (which are pretty regular), I give her a friendly "hello, how are you Sue?" and that's about it.  I no longer sit and chat with her like I used to.  She took notice, and told me that she thinks I'm disrespectful and said "you basically treat me like a piece of furniture."

Typically, I'm all for open communication telling someone how I feel.  But with her, it would not be good. She's vindictive and UGLY when she feels like someone is doing her wrong. I'm not the only one who has experienced this with her. Her siblings communicate with her minimally, she and her father do not talk at all, and her friendships are hanging by a thread. She's just not a nice person and I feel like she's stung me too many times.

My question is:  for the sake of peace, should I open up myself to her for even "brief" chats? I've seen her so many times lately and have thought about what I could possibly say to open up a conversation, but it feels so strained and so fake.

Thoughts?[/quote]

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